The easiest way is to see a feeling as something on a guitar string, and that you check the strings one by one, if that makes sense. So, feeling by feeling.
Feelings are super important to reflect on past states you have been in, and the state your body is in right now. A lot of people do this on Sunday. You go string by string. Sometimes feelings are blocked, and you don’t feel anything anymore.
If you constantly block emotions, it’s harder to feel whether you are hungry or not, if that makes sense.
The problem with saying, “feelings are not important,” is that it’s true for you in a way. Until you don’t feel anything at all. You make it true, so to say.
Pull your feelings inward, toward you, around your stomach.
The only thing that's infinite in this universe is emotional depth. The string can stretch infinitely.
Look, I am stuck in that reaction again.
It feels like a certain level of stress to me. That one thing happened again, and now I am here, stuck in that loop again.
And then boom.
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Step 1)
Be aware that you are in the reaction.
(This is the hardest part.)
Step 2)
Let the reaction play itself out without doing anything. This allows, for example, the emotion to release if you normally push it down quickly. Or if you quickly suppress your voice.
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Practical example: you are too critical of yourself. You are judging yourself right now, extensively.
“I can never do this.”
The moment you know you are doing this, you are aware of it, and you can see why you do this and if it is necessary to keep doing that. Or you can decide to sometimes do it and sometimes not.
And you can say: “Get the * out of my system.”