Welcome to Reality

Welcome to reality. Reality is everything.

You can literally take every step you want right now. You can move your hand up or down. You can roll your chair backward—or you don’t.

On top of that, there is a huge influx of information coming from outside. Everybody does random things. There are random sounds. Thoughts appear to be random.

Within this chaos, we all have to make sense of the world.

The reason I am typing this is because it’s important to emphasize the complete chaos of possibilities we live in from day to day. There is a lot we don’t do. I can hang my head outside the window right now. I don’t.

I come from a family where one side clearly has ADHD (most are criminals or low-lifes, or dead; some are entrepreneurs).

The other side of the family is filled with autism. People who barely talk, but can draw a 3D ship to scale from the top of their heads. Or when you play cards with them, they remember every card that is played.

Since I clearly inherited a bit of both, I have good insight into what it’s actually like to live with this kind of mind. I think current psychoanalysis is on a kindergarten level, but since we don’t have anything better than childish and superficial labels like autism and ADHD, let me elaborate.

I mean, you could have just asked. You didn’t need that fancy education or the brain scans. You could just have asked.

How It Is to Have Autism

If you have autistic traits, every signal gets treated as equally important. This means that the sound of a bird is treated as equally important as buying a new house. This is unimaginable for most people, who would treat buying a new house as infinitely more important than a bird chirping. Non-judgmental at its finest.

This takes enormous amounts of energy. It’s like you don’t skip a beat, so to say. You perceive reality at an unimaginable depth, so you need to take some time off as well (the famous meltdowns).

How It Is to Have ADHD

ADHD is completely different (or ADD—like I say, I don’t care about labels; they are way too impersonal, inhuman). ADHD is like riding a fast car. You are doing the most important thing ever, right now—for five minutes. And then you are doing the next most important thing ever, for five minutes.

This is also a very sound strategy to go through life. It’s fantastic. People with ADHD have a glimmer in their eyes that is unheard of. But it can also be very intense and scary.

Taking the Fear Out of the Equation

We have created a world where we dehumanize people by giving them labels. Just like we dehumanize animals by putting them into boxes. We create so much distance between things, we make things so clinical, that it’s almost as if we are not talking about real humans (or animals), but labels or numbers (20,000 chickens die as if it’s normal). It is absolutely ludicrous.

We Need to Focus on What Something Is

We need to focus on what something is instead of what something isn’t.

A person with ADHD isn’t somebody who can sit down for six hours, but it is somebody who can move at speeds you can only dream of.

A person with autism isn’t somebody who flows naturally through social interactions, but it is somebody who sometimes has to take steps back intellectually to let others be themselves as well.

Or they are both just people who like chocolate ice cream and don’t take life too seriously—which would be a good strategy for a lot of people.

It’s sad that it has become this way.