"Scary thoughts aren’t there to torment you," says Mary. "Come on, let’s go to them—maybe we can learn something from them."
Thinking in Terms of Energy
Hitting energy at the right time means that you visit somebody when you are at your peak, and the other welcomes you at their peak. Maybe you talk for an hour, both in your best energy, and then it’s done, and you leave.
This is the opposite of being in a relationship with somebody and ending up on the couch every night. You don’t meet each other at your best energy, but all the time—which is always suboptimal.
It’s like exactly knowing when to leave a birthday party at the right time.
What you believe yourself to be is the most important principle forever: if you believe you can do nothing, and you see it that way, then it becomes your reality.