You have to learn to work together with your thoughts, you know.

I thought for a long time about why social media has such a big influence.
I think it’s because the expectations you develop about what something is end up being misaligned.
Social media is a bit like science: it’s nice that you think it works a certain way, but real life is unfortunately a little different. Not necessarily better or worse, but it feels different.

I have an office job. In reality, that means staring at a screen for weeks or months without any visible progress. And at some point you start to feel that you’re getting better at it. But it remains quiet work, without spectacle. It is nice with colleagues, and it’s stable. But very often, it’s also extremely frustrating. When you work with a lot of data, things can quickly become overwhelming.

The image that social media paints makes working look far more spectacular than it actually is. For a long time, I wanted to be something else—the image that was shown to me online. Now I don’t need that anymore. Offices are full of the most normal, relaxed people, the people you can learn the most from.
Is there hard work? Not really, but everyone does their best.

It’s a small contribution you make to society, and that’s exactly how it should be. I’m good with the Dutch language, so that’s what I do—and that’s fine, even when it gets boring from time to time.

There is a time for reflection and thinking.
There is also a time to use your whole body a hundred percent for doing something, for learning something new.
What is consciousness? Life that speaks against the void.
You are alive. You speak to life. You look at yourself.

Why You Shouldn’t Put People Who Think in Boxes… Into Boxes

Let’s take two people.

Which one of them has ADHD, and which one doesn’t?

Person 1

  • Lots of energy

  • Very creative

  • Easily distracted

  • Lots of problems

  • A dreamer

  • Struggles to take care of themselves

Person 2

  • Lots of energy

  • Very creative

  • Easily distracted

  • Lots of problems

  • A dreamer

  • Struggles to take care of themselves

Person 1 does have ADHD, and Person 2 does not.

Even when the measurable traits are exactly the same, one person can be labeled as having something while the other is not.

And this is exactly the danger.

We don’t really know how ADHD or autism work. We can only see indirect patterns on brain scans.
And beyond that—we don’t truly understand how the brain works at all.

The reason this becomes dangerous is that one of the most powerful forces in your life is what you believe about yourself.
If you start believing you “have something,” you begin to look at the world through that lens. Then you start seeing it everywhere. If you get distracted, you think, “See? I can’t do this, I have ADHD,” as if concentration is something you can’t train (you can, and yes, your brain may work differently).

A human being is so unique that generalizations almost stop making sense—they’re simply not measurable at that level. Always look at the individual.

And just like with autism: putting people who think in boxes into boxes is a recipe for disaster.