I was six years old, sitting in my room. And I asked my brain, "How do you work, brain?" and I immediately started getting answers.
Yes, this really happened.
"I'm like a relationship device," my brain said. "Since I am that, and we have a relationship too, this is kind of hard to explain. So I'm just going to give you some examples."
"Alright," I said.
"I am you," my brain said, "but I am also a part of you, just like your feet are a part of you as well. You are not only your brain, just like you are also not only your feet."
"I mostly think in terms of relationships," my brain said. "When I am in trouble, it's mostly because your relationship with something is messed up."
For example:
Anorexia → you have a messed-up relationship with bad feelings and food.
Depression → you have an unhealthy relationship with the world around you.
Anxiety → most anxiety comes from not wanting to have a relationship with the bad things within you, creating a lot of stress.
"You sound pretty arrogant," I told my brain.
"I know," said my brain. "I think you have the Napoleon complex, which I just countered, since you have now proven you have at least some self-reflection, which is uncommon for people with the Napoleon complex. But with you, I don't know."
"You have to be careful with one-dimensional, heavy relationships," my brain told me.
Do you know that feeling of building a relationship with something that becomes too heavy and one-dimensional?
For example, you build a relationship with food that is only based on calories. That relationship becomes so heavy that it suppresses all the other, lighter relationships you can have with food. Like your natural feeling of hunger, what you feel like eating that day, and so on. One heavy relationship, and all the other relationships are gone.
For me, it feels a bit like that's how the brain works. It's a bit like saying, "I don't want to use social media at all." That can be a good thing, but it's also a heavy, one-dimensional relationship. Or saying, "I never want to drink again." That's not the difficult part. The difficult part is being able to drink once in a while when the moment is there.
Heavy Relationships
Do you know when you've been dating someone for a while, and at some point the relationship becomes too heavy? In the beginning, what makes it fun is that it's so lighthearted. And then, at some point, it's like suddenly all these decisions about the relationship have to be made. Even though that wasn't what it was about at all. You need to go back to the time when everything was lighter and more playful.
It's a bit like your relationship with food. It can become too serious, too focused on calories. If you make that relationship too heavy, it pushes away all the other light relationships you can have with food. Or religion. Some people have built such a one-dimensional relationship with religion that it has become too heavy and too serious. That's dangerous. It takes the lightness out of it.
So if you make one relationship too heavy, it suppresses all the lighter relationships you can have with it.
Imagine there's a lot of sadness somewhere in your body. You can't reach it. You go to a doctor. The doctor calls it depression.
Do you see how dangerous that can be?
It's not that the diagnosis is wrong, but you're making something heavy even heavier by the way you look at it. It starts to overshadow everything else that depression can be: pain, loss, sadness.
The way you look at something is the most important thing there is.
Do you know this one? Everyone talks about how hard it is to quit smoking. And because of that, quitting smoking actually becomes harder. Because you believe it's hard. That's the way you start looking at it.
I quit smoking too. Easiest thing there is. The only thing you have to do is stop doing it. How hard is that? Not doing something is the easiest and most relaxing thing there is. What's actually much harder is doing something. Like working out. And even that isn't nearly as difficult as people make it out to be.
It's the way we talk about things that shapes the way we see them. And because of that, they become unbelievably difficult.
I know a lot of people who used hard drugs before they knew how harmful they were. They just did it, and it wasn't a problem. It only became a problem once they started seeing it as one.
Be careful not to use spirituality and energy to avoid your problems. Face your problems proactively.
In this universe, knowledge is one of the most important things there is. Since the gap in people's ability to understand reality is becoming too big, it's important to share knowledge.
The last 10–20 years, especially the years after COVID, have, for many people, been about consciousness and understanding life from the inside out. A lot of people have cracked the code of how the brain "works" (although it isn't a defined, binary answer).
I think I was about six years old when I simply asked my brain, "How do you work, brain?" and I started getting answers. For me, it would never be acceptable to just have a brain and be a victim of its tendencies, so to speak.
I once read a book by a guy claiming, "We are our brain," which was basically an essay about how important the brain is. Nobody denies that. But importance, by definition, is relative. My feet are just as important as my brain. They contain just as much life as my brain. Both my feet and my brain are parts of me—my whole body. This is a vital and subtle difference in understanding reality. If you think "you are your brain," then it's like you'll never be able to understand it, because you are the thing investigating it—at least from the inside out.
The problem with these kinds of things is that you wouldn't believe, in a million years, what is humanly possible. You can temporarily make the inside of your body visible. You can talk to your brain, and it answers. You can eject emotions from your nervous system. You can access the deepest layers of your body. You can get into a state where you know which part of your brain you're currently using. You can move your whole body into a state of love, and then every fiber follows. There are so many things that I honestly don't know where to start.